I have not been writing because things have been so chaotic here. D and I have spent a lot of time discussing all the issues with K. Today K's teacher talked to me about her behavior at school. She's been 'mothering' one of the 3 year old girls. She talks about her all the time but I guess it is getting out of control. She's doing things for her and the 3 year old cries for K when she gets frustrated. It's such an odd dynamic and so hard as a parent to know how to handle. K doesn't want to do her work, she wants to just play like the 3 year olds. Yesterday she told her teacher that she forgot her book when it was her time to do reading. The teacher said check your bag and of course it was there. She lied so she could go play. This is not K's normal behavior. We're trying to figure out what is going on and debating all kinds of options. Is she bored? Is she trying to fit in somehow or doesn't want to stand out from the other kindergarteners? She's not playing with them anymore, she's spending all her time with this 3 year old who needs her. I need a psychologist. I knew raising her would be difficult but I wasn't prepared for this type of difficulty. It's a really odd dynamic at school this year with the kindergarteners and maybe we need to pull her out. D talked about me homeschooling her starting in January. I don't know. I don't know what to do. I can't seem to write about it either.
On top of that, she's been acting/talking like a baby. When I tried to get her to tell her teacher about buying gifts for needy gifts, she wouldn't talk. She crawled around on the floor and withdrew. Of course I pushed to get her to talk and that didn't work. So, I yelled at her on the ride home about manners and answering her teacher when asked, etc. She hates when I yell but this has been going on for a couple months and I've had it. I don't know how to handle it. I think she tuned me out.
On the positive side, the son I've been ignoring drew a wonderful picture of himself tonight and did a pretty good job of writing his name.
2 comments:
Hi. I saw you left a comment about American Girls on my blog.
I just want you to know that talking like a baby is actually pretty normal and common at this age 5/6. I have seen many little girls do it. I think they do it because they are transitioning between being a young child and a school child. When my daughter does it I just remind her to use her big girl voice.
It is possible that your daughter might have not known her book was in her bag. My daughter does stuff like that due to undeveloped organizational skills that come with practice and experience. For example, I will put her library books in her bag for her to return them but then she doesn't because she didn't see them in the bag. I would hesitate to let the school call that a lie in a 5 year old. The teacher could have given her another book to read.
Are you homeschooling now?
Thanks for the comment. I reread my post and realized I was just very upset that day. The school never said she lied, that was just my thought. Not a great thought I know but I was very frustrated with her behavior then. I'm more relaxed now - thank goodness.
I'm not homeschooling now, both kids are at the Montessori school. Well, I do some school at home. K didn't want to homeschool. We asked her about it and she decided not to BUT she asked to do classes at home. She's only in school in the mornings so we do classes at home in the afternoon. So, if I cannot find a fit for next year, I think she may be more open to homeschool.
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